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The only constant thing in this world is change.
The only thing scarier than the unknown is change.
So what do you do?
This conundrum is what stifles people into stagnation and the rut of doing absolutely nothing. On the flip end, it is the same force that rockets people into whom they will become.
What’s the difference?
You have to know what it is you want, and how you want to achieve it. Make no mistake, changing course from what you know as familiar is frightening. Not scary, frightening. When you embrace change, you give up comfort and control. These are two elements human beings strive for, hold fast to, and chase after. Comfort is the thing that allows us to be familiar and control what goes on around us. Comfort is the enemy of change. Comfort whispers to you, This is okay, I like this–this never has to change. If it changes, I won’t be in control anymore.
Dear ones, you cannot become what you desire, you will not effect change, you will not live or love unless you change. Unless you are able to embrace what is new and beneficial to you, nothing else will come to you.
There are some people whom believe and practice, The Secret, the Law of Attraction. Even this requires change! You must realize nothing in this life will just beat down doors for you.
Even to leave a room you have to get up and go to a door—ergo change position and vantage points. If change is what you desire, it begins with a change in position. Before you change position, ask yourself two questions:
1.) What am I trying to change?
2.) Why must I change it?
Notice the wording. Why must you change it? Only you can answer this, dear one. Only you can. In answering it, you give yourself freedom to think about what will benefit you in and towards changing. In its inception, change will always benefit you first.
I won’t be trite and say what it means to change, and how fabulous it is. Beginning change of any type is hard and it hurts! However, what you must recognize is which is worse, remaining where you are or not.
Happy New Year.