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The best thing people could ever do is underestimate you.
With the complicated burrowing through this life, there will always be people to tell what you could not, should not, unable to do. You cannot be defined and determined by other people’s opinions. However, other people will try and define you by what they think you should do or what would best suit you.
Again, the best thing people could ever do is underestimate you. In the act of underestimating, they have shown their level of involvement in your life and their contributions therein. The blessing in that underestimation, you have the power to discern what you want of your life and what you need to help you propel forward. The underestimation is rocket fuel to focus.
In the propelling forward, you are forced to decide what it is you want, and what help you will need when you need help.
What you must remember is people love to criticize what is new, different and challenges what they think I comfortable. People love to talk–and do so no matter what is presented to them. They will talk if you do what you want in spite of, they will talk if you stand still waiting for someone to come with you.
My question is this:
What if you did what you wanted? What if you did it anyway?
Whatever your it is, what if you need it with love, conviction, and in spite of other people’s opinions of you?
What if you made this life your own and did what you wanted, like you wanted and was excellent at it?
What if…just what if you did it anyway?
I was musing with a friend of mine about what a journey this life is. How as a child, you know what you are good at–you can’t explain it to other people , but in the world you craft for yourself, you know. For me it was words and writing. I couldn’t explain it to other people, but in my heart I knew these strange 26 letters I made my right hand master in print and cursive, no one could best me at.
I wrote anyway. I am writing anyway.
The wisdom I implore you to take with you today is the greatest gift of time and aging: reflection. What is your it? What are you trying to do or to become? What will it take to get there? What will you let go of to get it? Most of all, is it worth it?
This life, as beautiful, chaotic, dirty and crazy as it is, are swath with trade-offs. Full of its. Full of all marvelous its–things to do, see, shape, create and become. What is it?
When you answer this, determined about it, then it will not matter what people say…you’ll do it anyway.
Do it anyway…
The only constant thing in this world is change.
The only thing scarier than the unknown is change.
So what do you do?
This conundrum is what stifles people into stagnation and the rut of doing absolutely nothing. On the flip end, it is the same force that rockets people into whom they will become.
What’s the difference?
You have to know what it is you want, and how you want to achieve it. Make no mistake, changing course from what you know as familiar is frightening. Not scary, frightening. When you embrace change, you give up comfort and control. These are two elements human beings strive for, hold fast to, and chase after. Comfort is the thing that allows us to be familiar and control what goes on around us. Comfort is the enemy of change. Comfort whispers to you, This is okay, I like this–this never has to change. If it changes, I won’t be in control anymore.
Dear ones, you cannot become what you desire, you will not effect change, you will not live or love unless you change. Unless you are able to embrace what is new and beneficial to you, nothing else will come to you.
There are some people whom believe and practice, The Secret, the Law of Attraction. Even this requires change! You must realize nothing in this life will just beat down doors for you.
Even to leave a room you have to get up and go to a door—ergo change position and vantage points. If change is what you desire, it begins with a change in position. Before you change position, ask yourself two questions:
1.) What am I trying to change?
2.) Why must I change it?
Notice the wording. Why must you change it? Only you can answer this, dear one. Only you can. In answering it, you give yourself freedom to think about what will benefit you in and towards changing. In its inception, change will always benefit you first.
I won’t be trite and say what it means to change, and how fabulous it is. Beginning change of any type is hard and it hurts! However, what you must recognize is which is worse, remaining where you are or not.
Happy New Year.