Well, Torches we have made it to a new year, and Khloe Kardashian has now been embarrassed again. Like, EMBRASSED. Now, I am not about to dogpile on this woman, … Continue reading Talk About It Tuesday-1/4/2022
Tag: dating
Things Scarier Than COVID…Trying To Date In A Flipping Pandemic!
Those of you whom may not be aware, you girl is single again. Being single before COVID had its own set of challenges, and disappointments–but this?! Oh?! Let me tell … Continue reading Things Scarier Than COVID…Trying To Date In A Flipping Pandemic!
In Love’s Ashes & The Going Forward
There is a rage that comes when you realize that your time has been wasted. There is this sadness that comes when you realize someone that you love has wasted … Continue reading In Love’s Ashes & The Going Forward

Being The Glue: The Promise Of Better Shouldn’t Cost Her Everything
This piece is written in heteronormative terms. As with the previous piece, I do not want to disavow any experience my Firestarters whom may be a part of the LGBTQIA community. … Continue reading Being The Glue: The Promise Of Better Shouldn’t Cost Her Everything
Not Pretty For A Big Girl, Pretty Period: Advocating Body Positivity In a Size 0 World
August is Activism month here on The Ideal Firestarter and I want to take this time to reach out to big women that are afraid to go out in public on their … Continue reading Not Pretty For A Big Girl, Pretty Period: Advocating Body Positivity In a Size 0 World

May Book Review: DATING BIBLICAL FUCKBOYS
Fuckboy. Noun. A boy who is into strictly sexual relationships; he will lead a girl on and let her down, then apologize only to ask for “pics” once the girl … Continue reading May Book Review: DATING BIBLICAL FUCKBOYS
The Switch Out-Part I
Anyone that knows anything about Jenn Harris will tell you, I am a huge fan of classic film noir. I am a fan, of old Hollywood. I am a FAN, … Continue reading The Switch Out-Part I